Research at the University of Southern California has found that half of all American grandchildren have at least one set of divorced grandparents. Though divorce has become a common occurrence in our society, that doesn't make sharing the news any easier.
Prayerfully prepare your minds and hearts for what will be a sad and emotional conversation. It's usually best if both you and your parents are present to communicate this change to the children and that your parents speak for themselves.
Meet in a place that's safe, comfortable, and familiar to the children. Set aside ample time so that you aren't interrupted or rushed.
Depending on your children's ages, you may need to define the word divorce. Don't give too much information, and keep your explanations as simple as possible. Rehearse what you're going to say, who's going to say what, and how you might answer some of their questions. Let your kids know that they're free to ask any question they want, but remember — you don't have to have an answer for every question.
Acknowledge whatever concerns and emotions your children express. Let them know that this is about their grandparents and not about them. Remind them that they're still loved, valued, and cared for.
Be honest with them. Don't pretend that this isn't significant and that there won't be any changes in their lives. It is significant, and there will be changes. You may want to discuss some of the changes with them. Let them know they'll still be seeing their grandparents but maybe not at the same time.
The fact that their grandparents are divorcing may cause your kids to be concerned about your marriage. Take time to reassure them of your love for and commitment to each other. Close with a word of prayer thanking God for His goodness, kindness, and faithful love and for His promise to never leave us or forsake us.
This article is courtesy of HomeLife Magazine.