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"The emotional roller coaster of adolescence is a combination of a number of factors."
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Emotional Development
The grandfather of the study of the developing adolescent
is G. Stanley Hall. He is credited with many early ideas that form the
basis for the field of adolescent development. Hall felt that adolescent
development was a mirror of the development of the species. More significantly,
Hall believed that the development of the adolescent was controlled
purely by biological forces, occurring in a universal pattern, regardless
of environment or nurture (Rice
1999, 25). One of his earliest phrases, and one that still gets a lot
of print, is the notion that adolescence
necessarily involves what Hall called "Sturm
and Drang" or in English, "Storm and Stress." He suggested that
the turbulent times of adolescence are inevitable, that the best thing
parents can do is to batten down the hatches and get ready. Survival
of the teen years is the goal, both for parents and for adolescents.
One interesting twist was provided by Arnold Gesell, writing in the
early 20th century. He suggested that the emotional roller coaster in
adolescence followed a "good year/bad year" pattern which was relatively
constant from adolescent to adolescent. Rebellion and moodiness characterized
the bad years while cooperation and relative pleasantness characterized
the good. Good years were the even ages and bad years were the odd ages.
His thoughts were appealing when a parent could say, "Aha! That explains
why junior seems to have had a personality transplant since his last
birthday!"
Biology Versus Environment:
The Truth Is in the Middle
In contrast, writers like Margaret Mead have countered the biological
explanation for the emotional ups and downs of adolescence by suggesting
that the family
and culture
context had everything to do with the ride. Mead was a social anthropologist
who pointed to the idea that social institutions, economic patterns,
habits, rituals, and religious beliefs vary from culture to culture
(Rice 1999, 45), and so
the pattern of storm and stress is not necessarily predictable. Rebuttal
to Mead's work has followed with one writer suggesting that all of Mead's
work with Samoan teenagers was a hoax, the result of a joke that the
teenagers played on Mead as she studied them (see J. E. Cote, Adolescent
Storm and Stress: An Evaluation of the Mead-Freeman Controversy [Hillsdale,
NJ: Erlbaum, 1994]).
Hopefully, you scanned the background above and came to the correct
conclusion that extreme positions for explanation of adolescent emotional
behavior are not helpful. A combination of physical factors and environmental
factors is most helpful in understanding the mood-swinging adolescent.
Recent research on brain development (see physical development) contributes
to the idea that the emotional wavering as teenagers try to make a decision
is due to the fact that the part of their brain which has to do with
judgment is not fully developed. On the other hand, the discussion on
early
and late
maturers also gave us something to think about when we consider
the emotional development of adolescents. If a young person is ahead
or behind peers in physical development, the social interaction related
to coping with an out-of-sync body contributes to emotional condition
as well.
Nowadays most parents, youth workers, and even theorists who ponder
adolescents do not feel like the storm and stress are a given. The hormonal
explosion of the growth
spurt undoubtedly contributes to the emotional condition of an adolescent.
The often unstable family situations in the lives of some teenagers
absolutely add to the moodiness. Neither can media influence, the volatile
culture (cultures!), and the fast-paced world of school and friendships
in which teenagers exist be discounted as factors in the equation. The
emotional roller coaster of adolescence is a combination of all of the
above.
Personality
Another dimension in the study of emotional development has to do with
personality. As adults, we try to figure out whether our personality
or leadership style is dominant, influencing, steady, or conscientious.
Are we a "high D" or a "low I," and if so, how does that affect our
interaction with other people? I personally like the younger version
of the personality temperament, as presented in the delightful children's
book, The Treasure Tree by Trent and Smalley, in which four best
friends (a lion, an otter, a golden retriever, and a beaver) who have
the same birthday, each receive a gift from Wise Old Owl. The point
of the story is that each must use their own abilities, and they learn
to appreciate their own personalities as well as those of their friends.
Whether adult or child, we benefit from knowing the role of personality
in our emotional development.
While admittedly oversimplified here, remember that personality encompasses
most of what this whole development story is about, but briefly, personality
has to do with:
- Temperament (shy or outgoing)
- Learning style
- Language
- Sex role (masculine or feminine)
- Relational style
- Identity
A Word About Mood Swings
Anyone who works with youth is keenly aware of the large mood swings
in teenagers. They tend to go from one extreme to another in just a
few hours or even minutes. Experts who study adolescent behavior classify
most of this as age-appropriate, normal, typical, and expected behavior
of individuals in the adolescent cycle of life. Mood swings are not
the key to understanding teenagers. Emotional developmental
tasks relate to and are centered in this conflict raging in the
lives of teenagers seeking to find out who they are apart from their
parents (Rowley 1990,
49-50). Boshers notes, "Mood swings are not uncommon for teenagers.
Mood swings are closely related to the physical and social changes teenagers
face during adolescence. Also, their preoccupation with their developing
identity can cause emotional turmoil" (Boshers 1997, 87).
Adolescents have not yet mastered the ability to balance anxieties
and the frustrations of life. Many struggle with this well into adulthood.
The teenagers' coping mechanisms, however, are not yet firmly in place.
The wisdom of experience is not there to offer reassurance and solace
(Stevens 1985, 61). Many
teenagers appear unstable emotionally as they make the transition from
thinking and acting like children to facing the pressures of being a
mature adult. They are looking for a safe place to find themselves (Boshers
1997, 88). A value is something that has worth and is desirable. A task
of youth ministry is to help youth develop a value of themselves and
who God is in them. They must feel good about who they are before they
are able to value other people, beliefs, and principles (Ross
1989, 60).
Emotions Gone Wrong
Many topics could be listed here, including delinquency, anger, stress,
suicide, runaways, depression,
and even hyperactivity. Some of the emotional disorders have physical
roots, but many of them are a result of mismanaged or dysfunctional
emotional development. Rice (1999,
399) said, "Sometimes adolescents who are emotionally upset turn outward,
expressing pent-up emotions through various forms of acting-out behavior:
truancy, aggressive behavior, promiscuity, theft, assault, rape, even
the destruction of one's own life or that of another."
Eating disorders are another manifestation
of emotions gone wrong. An estimated 20-30 percent of all teenage girls
suffer from some sort of eating disorder; 90 percent of all eating disorder
cases reported are female. More of an issue with women, females are
more likely to think that they are overweight when they really aren't.
Most agree that the root of eating disorders is self-esteem.
Many with eating disorders are good students. The two major types of
eating disorders are anorexia
nervosa and bulimia nervosa.
Anorexia, literally "a nervous loss of appetite," was first diagnosed
in 1689. It involves an extreme preoccupation with weight, which quickly
escalates into urgency to lose more weight. Weight loss is accomplished
by fasting, excessive exercise, or laxatives. The typical anorexic is
12-16 years old when symptoms show. Symptoms may include irritability,
perfectionist attitude, introverted personality, emaciated appearance,
cold hands and feet, dry skin, thin head hair with a downy fuzz eventually
appearing on other parts of the body, and the interruption or cessation
of menstrual cycle.
Bulimia, "an insatiable appetite," is commonly known as the binge-purge
disease, eating large amounts of food at a time followed by expulsion
by various means. Vomiting by means of gagging with fingers or by taking
drugs to induce nausea is combined with use of laxatives. Sometimes
bulimics chew food and then spit it out. Symptoms may include fluctuating
body weight (bulimics are rarely emaciated like anorexics), rapid or
irregular heartbeat, broken blood vessels in the face, bags under the
eyes, loss of tooth enamel because of gastric juices in the mouth, and
the interruption or cessation of the menstrual cycle (Tan Flippin, "Eating
Disorders: A Teenage Trend of the 90's," Youthworker Update,
3, 9. Flippin cited Love Hunger by Minrith and Meier, K. L. Nagel
and Karen Jones, "Predisposition Factors in Anorexia Nervosa" in Adolescence
27, 106).
Responding to Emotional
Hurt
Some of the emotion
is connected to hormones,
while some of it is connected to their surroundings. In adolescence
there is a predictable quest for identity,
and the solving of the identity crisis is a significant struggle with
many subplots. It is common for adolescents to respond to the emotional
storm by shifting into neutral to avoid making decisions until their
emotional maturity
catches up.
Youth ministers, parents, and volunteer youth workers are extremely
important in assisting in the navigation of adolescent emotions. If
significant adults understand the wide range of normal emotion, they
can more easily recognize when a teenager has strayed outside the norm
and is in need of additional help. Learning to love, learning to feel,
learning to channel anger and disappointment are all part of the "storm
and stress" of adolescence. But adolescence need not be a dark period
of storm and stress. Many adolescents who are nurtured by family and
faith community emerge from the emotional tornado having had a rather
enjoyable experience.
YQ: What about the emotions of your teenagers? Identify
specific teenagers who are struggling with mood swings and emotional
disorders. How can you minister to them?
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