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The Real Senior Adult
Nobody grows old by living
A number of years.
People grow old from lack of purpose.
Years wrinkle
the skin.
Lack of purpose wrinkles the soul.
—Author
unknown
Harlan Sanders, founder of the Kentucky Fried Chicken Corporation, gave some
excellent advice to guide in our study of the senior adult years:
There is these days a whole lot of talk and a whole lot of writing about
why adults act certain ways at certain ages. We are told that when we are
35 years old we act one way and that 10 years later we act differently. All
of this is just fine; discovering these things is what research is all about.
But I hope that our young people who have their careers ahead of them will
keep one thing in mind. It's a pretty simple thing, too. Let's not hang a
tag on folks at a certain age and pretend that everyone wearing that tag is
just like everyone else with the same tag (Harlan Sanders, 1977, "Education
and the Preparation for Retirement," Educational Gerontology: An International
Journal, 1993, 3).
Such an attitude of discrimination toward seniors is a form of prejudice, namely
ageism. Seniors in our society face prejudice just because they are growing
old. They are devalued—seen as losers and not winners as the young are.
Why this devaluation of the aged? Myths and stereotypes hinder our perception
and understanding of older persons. Consider these false perceptions:
- Senility inevitably accompanies old age.
- Most old people are isolated from their families.
- The majority of old people are in poor health.
- Older people are more likely than younger people to be crime victims.
- The majority of older people live in poverty.
- Older people tend to become more religious as they age.
- Older workers are less productive than younger ones.
- Old people who retire usually suffer a decline in health and an early death.
- Most old people have no interest in, or capacity for, sexual relations.
- Most old people end up in nursing homes and other long-term care institutions.
Many adults are driven by new circumstances caused by demographic changes and
healthcare advances. As the fabled baby boomers begin to hit 65 in 2010, they
will remake our ideas of growing old. Their values will be decidedly different
from the oldest-old cohort of today. Hopefully we will see that growing old
is a version of growing up, not an accident, but normal.
AdultApplication: Talk
with some senior adults in your church about these stereotypes. Ask them for
their impressions. Compare their responses with the following quiz.
How do you look at the senior years? Take this test.
This quiz takes less than 10 minutes to complete. Remember when responding
to the questions that this quiz does not focus on any specific age range of
adults; instead it focuses on adults as they age.Select true or false to indicate
your opinion about each statement.
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Test used by permission from Michael Galbreth, Florida Atlantic University
at Boca Raton.
Adult Application: Which
answers were the most surprising for you? Why? What do the results of this study
say to church ministry with aging adults? What stereotypes of aging persons does
this quiz reveal? What positive aspects of aging does this quiz reveal? What do
the results of this quiz suggest about your church's ministry with elders?
On Friday, January 16, 1998, NASA announced a return to orbit for John Glenn,
the first American to orbit the Earth. He asked NASA if he could fly again to
conduct space-based research on aging. Thirty-six years earlier, on February
20, 1962, Glenn climbed into his Friendship 7 Mercury capsule and lifted off
on an Atlas 6 rocket. His orbital flight lasted 4 hours, 55 minutes, all but
7 minutes being in weightlessness. Glenn became the first American to orbit
the Earth and an instant hero. The 77-year-old senator from Ohio showed that
young people would look at older persons with new appreciation. With his exceptional
flight he shattered many myths of aging. He showed that seniors need a vision
and a dream for their later years.
Our concepts of aging reflect a lifetime of attitudes, biases, and experiences.
- Most seniors have positive views of their aging.
- Aging is universal; everyone is aging at the same rate.
- Aging is normal; it is not an accident or a cruel trick from the Almighty.
- Aging is inevitable.
- It is variable; not all people age in the same way. For instance, regular
physical exercise, proper diet, regular checkups, and not smoking will pay
great dividends as we grow older.
In response, seniors can and do learn anything they choose to learn. They can
and do change. In fact, they live in a world of change. More importantly, elders
want to be self-directed and are vital human beings.
AdultApplication: How
do you look at your own aging? How do you look at older people in your church?
Over time society's attitudes toward the elderly have been shaped into several
theories. We will look at two approaches and how they may shape attitudes toward
the elderly in our churches.
Disengagement—According to this approach, disengagement by elders
is a gradual but inevitable withdrawal from the various roles and responsibilities
of middle adulthood. Both society and the elderly withdraw from each other. In
churches, elders "retire" from church leadership positions just as they retire
from school teaching or working on the assembly line. They say, "I've done all
I can do; let some young people take over."
From society's perspective this theory means younger people can't depend on
elders any longer because they are not producing anything; and anyway, they
are going to die. They are at the dying stage of life, not the living.
This approach is played out in the expression of the 23-year-old aspiring church
leader who said, "When I get to that church, the first thing I will do is take
out the organ!" The "old," represented by the organ, was deemed to be worthless
now that the new was on the scene—represented by him.
This approach also has another dangerous dimension. It becomes prescriptive,
not just descriptive. That is, elders will begin to sense that disengaging from
life is what they should do; it is their duty toward society and to the church.
AdultApplication: Do
you know of any attitudes or activities in your church that represent the disengagement
approach to aging?
Activity approach to aging—The activity approach was developed
in response to the disengagement approach. The activity approach suggests that
we withdraw from some activities in middle age and substitute new activities
as we age. So a middle manager of an auto parts firm retires and volunteers
with the Retired Service Volunteer Program. Or a landscape architect retires
and volunteers to plan and develop a garden near the children's playground at
the church.
The thinking goes that persons substitute appropriate social, physical, and
mental activities for those they had in middle adulthood. This seems to be the
dominant approach behind many government programs, especially at senior centers.
It, too, has some shortcomings. For instance, can't a person merely rest during
retirement and not clog up their week with activity after activity? For another
thing, Christians need to see beyond a person's output or activity and value
the person whether or not the person is busy. Being is far more important than
doing.
Society has the unfortunate idea that we need to have lots of activities for
older church members to "keep granny off the street." I believe this thinking
about the preferred patterns of aging got its root in youth activity programming,
which was prominent in many areas in the 60s—that is, keep youth, now seniors,
busy, busy, busy.
This approach implies that social activity is the essence of life, and we must
be active to achieve life satisfaction. Think about the number of persons in
long-term care who cannot be active, though they wish they could be. They are
hampered by Parkinson's Disease or arthritis and cannot be active. Furthermore,
this separation between the active and those unable to be active drives an unnecessary
wedge between persons. It can be prejudicial. Society brands elders into two
groups: the haves who can be active, and the have-nots who cannot be active.
AdultApplication: Do
you know of any attitudes or activities in your church that represent the activity
approach to aging?
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