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Adults and Faith
How would you draw a map of the faith development in adulthood? Would it show
a flat terrain until death, or would there be hills and valleys along the way?
Let's focus on some unique issues faced by adults as they travel through
their spiritual journey.
While adults have many years to deepen and broaden their faith,
the territory and direction of Christian growth in these years is hazy, especially
if they have been in a strong youth program which emphasized discipleship and
then move toward an adult program which is weak and inconsequential in contrast.
Adults wonder if adult discipleship is just an adult version of the youth faith
pilgrimage. Sometimes adults need to overcome poor or inadequate faith presentations
learned as children or youth.
Read the following description of God from a young boy's perspective
(written by Bruce Barton in the 1925 best-seller The Man Nobody Knows):
The little boy's body sat bolt upright in the rough wooden chair, but his
mind was very busy.
This was his weekly hour of revolt.
The kindly lady who could never seem to find her glasses would have been
terribly shocked if she had known what was going on inside the little boy's
mind.
"You must love Jesus," she said every Sunday, "and God."
The little boy did not say anything. He was afraid to say anything; he was
almost afraid that something would happen to him because of the things he
thought:
Love God! Who was always picking on people for having a good time,
and sending little boys to hell because they couldn't do better in a world
he had made so hard! Why didn't God take on someone his own size?
Love Jesus! The little boy looked up at the picture, which hung on the Sunday-school
wall. It showed a pale young man with flabby forearms and a sad expression.
The young man had red whiskers.
Then the little boy looked across to the other wall. There was Daniel, good
old Daniel, standing off the lions. The little boy liked Daniel. He liked
David, too, with the trusty sling that landed a stone square on the forehead
of Goliath. And Moses, with his rod and his big brass snake. They were winners—those
three. He wondered if David could whip Jeffries. Samson could! Say, that would
have been a fight!
But Jesus! Jesus was the "lamb of God." The little boy did not know what
that meant, but it sounded like Mary's little lamb. Something for girls—sissified.
Jesus was also "meek and lowly," a "man of sorrows and acquainted with grief."
He went around for three years telling people not to do things.
Sunday was Jesus' day; it was wrong to feel comfortable or laugh on Sunday.
The little boy was glad when the superintendent thumped the bell and announced:
"We will now sing the closing hymn." One more bad hour was over. For one more
week the little boy had got rid of Jesus.
AdultApplication: Reread
that description of the little boy's faith. This time underline words and phrases
that show immature faith. What challenges do adult leaders have when confronted
by biblical and theological ignorance and illiteracy? What kinds of misunderstandings
do your adult group members bring into the classroom?
With the provocative title What Prevents Christian Adults from
Leaning? John Hull has given a fresh diagnosis of the central problem of
today's church, namely why adults have such a reluctance to be involved in church
educational programs for them. According to Hull, adults are taught as children
that the Christian faith is something one grows out of. It is necessary, yes,
for children and youth, because they are in a learning mode most of their growing
up years. That is, they are in school, and Sunday School is appropriate
for them. So, when they become adults, over 18, they no longer need the trappings
of youth or childhood. In fact, they define themselves as adults in part by
not needing schooling anymore. These adults insist that children and youth need
religious training but they do not.
More than likely you have heard strong support for calling a children's
minister or a youth director but not a minister to adults. Part of this lack
of attention to adult spiritual maturity can be traced to Hull's assumptions.
"So it is that as adults and parents we socialize our children into that for
which we have a fond nostalgia but can no longer take seriously ourselves. Deep
in their hearts many adults believe that religion really is for children" (Hull,
p. 8). Children and youth observe this as well. They conclude that if parents
and other adults are not really committed to their own growing discipleship,
they can "look forward" to the days when they can stop growing spiritually as
well—as adults.
How then do Christian adults face their hypocrisy? In Christian
education settings they often give the safe, remembered answers they learned
as children. They seek to preserve, not enhance, the faith once delivered to
them long ago. These adults pay a high price for their failure to go on growing
in discipleship in their adult years. They have stopped learning. They know
the church answers. They can recite the Sunday morning schedule for worship.
They know the major Bible stories. They have "got it down," so to speak.
Ironically, though, these same adults who have "got religion down"
continue to grow and mature in other areas of their lives. They marry, have
offspring, take on a career, get involved in civic life, and shoulder a host
of other responsibilities. In family life and work they solve problems, seek
answers, continuously retrain and retool. Then suddenly a crisis appears—a daughter
gets pregnant or a son decorates his body with earrings and tattoos and becomes
a punk rocker. Anxious adults then harness all the resources they can muster,
including their faith. This is the midlife crisis of faith, when they cannot
solve the spiritual problems of adulthood with a faith they left 25 years ago
at age 18.
What else keeps Christian adults from learning? In most classes
adults want to preserve and enhance their self-respect and self-image. So they
are careful not to admit that they don't know the answer to a question posed
by the teacher. In this case ignorance breeds embarrassment. Their greatest
fear is having their ignorance discovered. They are afraid of giving the wrong
answers because they are supposed to have learned all this information years
ago as a child or youth. This is not the case for children and youth. Why? Because
the childhood and youth years are times of education and growth. It is understandable
that they don't know biblical truth.
We may feel uncomfortable with the little boy's thoughts about
his Sunday School experience. And we would hope that future lessons would correct
his impressions. However, many adults retain these impressions well into adulthood.
One cause is that they had become Sunday School dropouts and were not involved
in Christian education during their youth years. Or they unconsciously pick
up these childhood interpretations from society and bring them to the adult
Bible class.
The task of the adult Christian education teacher is formidable—not
only to teach the current lesson but at the same time to shore up the shortcomings
of years of childhood (mis)education.
AdultApplication: Consider
the class of adults you lead. Do you teach in a way that invites participation,
or has lack of participation led you to do all the talking? Do you reward/affirm
participation/questions/comments—even when they are clearly incorrect or immature?
On a scale of 1 to 10, with academic study at one end and personal application
at the other, where does your teaching fall? What evidences of immaturity do
you see among your class members? How can you encourage them to grow? What about
church members who are not involved in Bible study? How can they be encouraged
to attend and to participate?
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