Give God your imperfect home

You don't have a perfect home. You may be wondering how I knew that. Guess what? Nobody does! Every married couple faces troubles and seasons of distress within their family. The important thing is how you handle things that come your way, not trying to escape.

You Have a Choice

Some people think there are only two choices:

  • Create and maintain a perfect home.
  • Give in to frustrations, give up too quickly, and leave the imperfect situation.

These are not the only choices! God knew we would have trying times and He provided directions and encouragement for the tough times in His Word.

Currently I have two friends whose spouses have left home, creating separation in their families. Another friend with a large family has been diagnosed with a serious illness. Another couple are at odds over challenges with a difficult child.

4 Ways Christians are to React

So, how is an individual to react to these and other circumstances that make up an imperfect home?

As believers, we have tremendous resources, but we must take action. The saddest thing is to see Christians with no hope, behaving as if God cannot or will not meet their needs.

Will you believe God is who He is and allow Him to invade your circumstances? Apply these biblical truths to help you face your "Goliaths."

1. Believe no situation or problem is too big for God.

Take action like David, believing God will accomplish the impossible. Read 1 Samuel 17. Note David's dependence on God. "You come against me with a dagger, spear, and sword, but I come against you in the name of the Lord of Hosts, the God of Israel's armies - you have defied Him. Today, the Lord will hand you over to me" (1 Samuel 17:45-46, Holman Christian Standard Bible).

Has it occurred to you that if you obey God's instructions for problems in your marriage others will see and be drawn to God? Your time of trouble could be used to bring others to Christ!

2. Pour out your heart to God in prayer.

Genuinely seek Him. " will search for the Lord your God, and you will find [Him] when you seek Him with all your heart and all your soul. When you are in distress and all these things have happened to you, you will return to the Lord your God in later days and obey Him. He will not leave you, destroy you, or forget the covenant with your fathers that He swore to them by oath, because the Lord your God is a compassionate God," (Deuteronomy. 4:29-31, HCSB).

The distress mentioned here is like that which you face. Seek Him; expect His compassion and success for your situation.

3. Read His Word daily; trust Him; obey His commandments, even if you don't want to!

As you read the Bible, be open and know that His plan and His answers are better than yours. Ask Him to give you strength to obey Him when you know you cannot do it on your own. "Follow the whole instruction the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live, prosper, and have a long life in the land you will possess" (Deuteronomy. 5:33, HCSB).

Don't wait until you feel like it or think you can do it on your own. Apply His Word today to your life. Do right because it is right, until it feels right!

4. Wait on the Lord; expect Him to show up.

"I waited patiently for the Lord, and He turned to me and heard my cry for help. He brought me up from a desolate pit, out of the muddy clay, and set my feet on a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the Lord" (Psalm 40: 1-3, HCSB).

Believe that God knows your pit of destruction and He is the one who can lift you up!

God is gracious and full of love and compassion for you. Turn over your imperfect home to Him and ask Him to make it a great home.


JB & Shugie Collingsworth lead marriage seminars and retreats that impact couples around the world. They are based out of Dallas/FtWorth, TX.


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